I want to start by saying that every mother is different. There is no “one” right way to be a mother. I’m no expert by any means. That being said, I am a co-sleeping mother. Better yet, I am a “breast-sleeping” mother. It has been one of the best decisions that I have made. This post by no means is meant to conform you into becoming one. I merely want to share why I chose to.
I absolutely love breast-sleeping with my daughter, although I did not mean for it to happen. When we first brought her home she slept in a rock n’ play next to my bed. She slept peacefully in this as it snug close around her tiny body. It was like I was holding her. The rock n’ play didn’t last for long though as she was starting to grow out of it. I then came across a Halo Bassinet and started using it instead. She slept well in it for the most part, but it was hard for me to see her through the mesh. We then had a little incident.
1. The Cold
This is how it all started. Around my daughter’s 3 month birthday, she developed a cold. (And yes, I celebrate every month mark as a birthday!) As a new mom, I was scared to death that she would stop breathing in the middle of the night because of her stuffy nose. I would wake up every hour to check on her. I was a nervous wreck. So I decided to put her in the bed with me. I laid her head in the crook of my arm to keep her inclined and so that I could feel her. When we woke to nurse, we were in the same position! We fell back to sleep and I felt so refreshed the next morning. I loved being able to touch her all night.
2. Wanting her Close
My daughter has always been either beside me in a co-sleeper or in the bed with me. During the short time that she was in a co-sleeper, I would constantly wake up to check on her. I was always terrified that I slept through her waking, or she had stopped breathing, or she even had her blanket over her head (we used the breathable muslin, but still). I would hold my arm over the bed so that I could touch her. In turn, my arm would go completely numb. This was just one more reason to have her lay next to me. She still sleeps in the crook of my arm just as we started out. I honestly cannot even take a nap during the day unless she is in my arms. Speaking of how she is already in my arms…
Ladies, night time feedings are so much easier when baby is already next to you. I literally just pull down my shirt, whip out my boob, and bam…she is eating. She never fully wakes up during the night and we are completely in sync with our sleeping. I can feel the slightest movement she makes when it is time to nurse. So instead of waiting to hear her move or cry, I feel her and nurse right a way. I wear a tight-fitted, low-cut shirt that really helps. And lastly, I miss her while I’m away…
4. Work and Snuggles
I am a full time working mama. During the week, I only get to spend about 1.5 hours with my precious child until it is bedtime. I am a very hands-on mama and love holding my baby. If I could take her to work with me, I would! Having her sleep with me gives me all night to cuddle and love on her. I am able to somewhat make up for what I have missed during the day. I also know that I won’t always be able to do this, so I soak it up as much as I can.
There you have it ladies, my “why” I breast-sleep. I would never change it for a thing. Comment below if you love it as much as I do! As always, YOU’VE GOT THIS MAMA!